maybe ur friend doesn't care genuinely. but. if u meet another trans person they might, even if u knew them 'before.' if u had the foresight to say 'i know my pronouns r all over the place' then u have the ability to go back & edit ur message. It's part of practice & making it less confusing. And leaving a message like this where it comes across as misgendering & then excusing it on a trans safety specific question makes me genuinely uncomfy.