I had a Tacoma, stock headlights are not even that bright in them so idk why people are flashing you. My model 3 has super bright headlights but I rarely get flashed, my 2012 Taurus had bright lights too and I got flashed all the time in that, but it was all factory.

I will say, I just came back from Iceland and people there were terrible about turning off their high beams, I was constantly blinded by oncoming traffic.