Thank you for the advice, I fully agree with you. I want to do this with a mediator. Unfortunately, I cannot control my stbx. They seem to be hell bent on making this as hard as possible. Our children deserve better. I can only hope they come to their senses and realize that it doesn’t need to be this way. We are in no position to fund a divorce that costs tens of thousands! The focus should be on the children and making this transition as easy and comfortable for them as possible.