Because your comment has nothing to do with the previous comment? No matter where the children are placed (with family or not), this situation is extremely traumatic, not because of where they are being placed but because their mother was killed and it might have been at the hands of the father.

Yes, speaking the same language as the family you are being placed with should be taken into consideration. Imagine going through something so traumatic and then all of a sudden you're placed in a home where no one speaks your language and you can't even communicate with anyone.