movdqa t1_j4qamlf wrote on January 17, 2023 at 2:56 PM

We live in a townhouse and one neighbor is out about 80% of the time (she is a single parent and leaves for work at 6 AM and returns at 7 PM and I think that she stays with her parents on the weekends). The other neighbor is gone about 10 hours during the day. So they are both quiet. We have good sound insulation between units.

We also have very strict rules on parking an noise and they are enforced.

The problem with a Condex is that you have a vote and the other person has a vote. One of the things that I look at in condos is the quality of management. Some places have awful management and some places are great. Of course your opinion of what constitutes quality may vary from mine.

Some people or management boards are aggressive about maintenance and enforcing rules which is what I like while others like to minimize current costs and defer maintenance for as long as possible which I consider short-sighted.

I'd go along with the other recommendation to move somewhere else.

virgotendencies88 OP t1_j4qdbuq wrote on January 17, 2023 at 3:14 PM

We unfortunately don’t have any type of HOA or condo association so it’s basically everyone for themselves. However, upon doing some light research I did find that she is getting assistance from the state to fund her mortgage. If she’s not meeting certain criteria such as paying her half of the master policy or taking care of hazardous situations she’s liable and can lose her funding.

If I wasn’t so pregnant right now I would move in a second. We plan to move within the next year but for the time being it’s just not in our cards at the moment, as I cannot take on any added stress and we would end up being in the middle of a move by my due date. I’m hoping that between contacting NH housing and our insurance company they can take the right actions on our behalf. The noise I can deal with but our house catching fire from her negligence shouldn’t be something we should have to worry about!

movdqa t1_j4qop3l wrote on January 17, 2023 at 4:29 PM

We have only had bad neighbors once in our 35 years here. They were a young couple and the boyfriend apparently sold performance cars (he'd have exotic cars in the driveway on a regular basis). We only contacted the HOA once as she would let her dog out the front door and he'd run around, poop on our lawn and then run back inside. One email to the HOA took care of the problem.

I hope that you can get your problems resolved. Financial stress often results in family stress and your neighbor might not have had the best examples in growing up and raising kids; nor additional family resources.