Get a dog or borrow a dog and go to a dog park. I’ve met most of my local friends and some girls I’ve dated or hooked up with there. If you’re into horror movies, there’s a fairly decent sized horror community here and a lot of great people are part of it.

As for kink-specifically, well, I’ve always just met people through normal channels (apps, work, dog park, concerts, horror events, cons, through friends, etc.) and just hoped that they didn’t have the sexual personality of driftwood when it came to the bedroom.