I’m not too sure about the BDSM/ kink scene but just a month ago there was a furry kinky fetish type convention at the Armon hotel in Stamford, CT.

I also feel for you as I am a late 20’s lesbian woman and am finding no luck with dating in this college town either. I keep thinking its because majority of people here are only staying in NH short term for a job contract or grad program at Yale and probably aren’t looking for something longterm. May have to rely on dating apps to meet someone similar tbh