I'm not really sure who you surround yourself with, but the people I've grown up with in NJ don't generally go on Reddit just to mock someone's style choices. I don't feel morally superior, I'm just not going to make a post that tells people what they should look like. I feel that's a shallow behavior and not representative of an entire state. But you're right. If that's the behavior you want to be part of, I shouldn't judge - you go be you