> the person that just wants to let everyone else do their own thing if its not hurting anyone

That's why I love

> Middlesex

I think I identify as "Central Jersey" more than anything else. And seeing as some parts of NJ are very different, and that certain people (not in this thread, in other places on the web and in print) have come up with multiple "NJ identities" - none of which I really identify with - I can't say I "identify" as a New Jerseyan, neither on a superficial nor on a personal level...

...at least not more than I identify as an American, which I do, in an idealist sense (y'know, the stuff they taught us in elementary school about freedom and equality and all that). Probably comes from being an immigrant who came here at that age.