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impy695 t1_j9w1r1d wrote

There is a big step between this:

> I mean arguably it is normal by virtue of being common that people become irrational and unconsolably emotional

And this:

> and yes even violent

Most people don't become violent even when they become irrationally angry. People that do, need some form of anger management. Violence in response to cheating is not common or normal, even though irrational anger is common and normal.

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ElectroFlannelGore t1_j9w5yua wrote

>Most people don't become violent even when they become irrationally angry.

I'll have to find some stats on that

>People that do, need some form of anger management.

No disagreement here. I work with addicts. Lots of them out of prison or fresh from anger management classes.

>Violence in response to cheating is not common or normal, even though irrational anger is common and normal.

https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/56a7/e2b8f13215977c181fa691aab6265f19b93e.pdf

I dunno man. Searching "infidelity intimate partner violence" makes it seem pretty common. I mean as far as causes of intimate partner violence.

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impy695 t1_j9w7vn8 wrote

If you search for cases where cheating lead to violence, you're going to find a lot, but what you won't find is the vast majority that aren't newsworthy because no one goes crazy.

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masterofshadows t1_j9x3jl3 wrote

They literally linked you to a scholarly research paper on it. No not everyone who gets cheated on gets violent. But amongst the subset of people prone to violence, infidelity can be a major trigger for a violent act.

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impy695 t1_j9x4d57 wrote

Yeah, it doesn't have anything to do with the point they're trying to make.

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