All I could think when you said that the oncologist said that it was curable, but that he was getting chemo, I hated that oncologist for you. Chemo isn't for people with curable cancer. Chemo is for keeping the cancer from spreading. Curable cancer is removed with surgery and possibly directed radiation, but not Chemo. Radiation is directed at the cancer itself to slow down the growth of and shrinks down the tumors that are filled with cancerous cells.

What a fucking horrible thing for that oncologist to say to your family. There is nothing, and I truly mean nothing, worse in this life than being given hope when there is none. I think medical related hope is almost at the top of the list of the worst type of hope to give someone. As someone with some severe disabilities, I know that it was the doctors who were completely real with me about situations and my conditions even if I didn't want to hear it, that got me through it.

Doctors take the oath to do no harm and I think that the most harm a doctor can do is lie to a person's face and the faces of their loved ones about the reality of their diagnosis.

I'm so sorry, OP. More than about the flood. More than about your aunt or the horses. More than your Dad's agonizingly slow (and yet fast) disintegration both body and mind.