Yeah that’s fair. But at this point there are probably tons of them: cousins, second cousins, very distant relatives. People gonna do what they want to do. I see your point being for the greater good and I agree, but when you’re an individual, it doesn’t feel fair to have that choice made for you. That is a huge issue in our world in general. It seems that op’s family is no different. That’s a lot of people to get on the same page.