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CornerCornea OP t1_ivq8voz wrote

Reply to comment by Eleven_eyes in Helicopter Moms are dangerous, Shadow Mothers are worse. by CornerCornea

I don't know how I'll be able to face my dad, but I want to be the one who hands him the urn. And face whatever it is to come.

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Eleven_eyes t1_ivrba1o wrote

That would be so brave of you! But I do think you need to stop sacrifice yourself for your dad. You’ve been carrying this guilt your whole life, that never even where yours to begin with! Your dad obviously love you no matter what. Maybe now when the truth is out you both can start healing, and actually talk for real about everything!

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CornerCornea OP t1_ivrdqj5 wrote

Maybe, but what if it drives him further down the home he’s been digging? Once he finds out he was wrong about my mother, he may never forgive himself.

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Eleven_eyes t1_ivrep0n wrote

Let’s face it, he’s already doing that! Maybe this will get him there faster, but he’s already heading for the rock bottom. Just look what your biological mothers deceit has done to your family thus far! Now at least you both can get some closure. Besides, don’t you think he deserves to know the truth?

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CornerCornea OP t1_ivrjigm wrote

He does deserve to know. Okay, I…I’ll tell him. Wish me luck.

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