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deathdealer351 t1_jbq869w wrote

Idk how many times I was told to change because I looked like a thug as a teen..

Idk how many times I my friends mums told their kids to change because thug or tramp and they are not going out like that..

Shit I had a mates dad tell me people will treat me like a criminal if I keep dressing like one, and present how you want to be treated.. That was actually good advice I started presenting better and was treated better.

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Buddyblue21 t1_jbqep8j wrote

Yeah but cornrows are seen as “thuggish” by white people rather than black people (largely). It’s pretty much the centuries old debate of what makes “good hair” which is largely shaped by the dominant white culture.

So do you think cornrows make a black person look like a thug?

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deathdealer351 t1_jbqlqb8 wrote

I've seen plenty of black people with corn rows that present well.. I've seen plenty of white people with corn rows that present thuggish..

But I'm different, I've dressed thuggish before and was never a thug so I don't look at the outfit and make judgments like that, it would be more your stance, tone of voice, movements in shoulder postering that would give me a 1st impression of if you are a thug or not..

But 1st impressions are a thing and it's not a racist thing.. It's how you present that is going to make someone feel a certain way about you..

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MyBFFCrackers t1_jbur7tu wrote

It wasn’t just white peoples who thought cornrows looked thuggish, and years ago that’s what they were associated with. Even a white girl wearing cornrows looked a certain way. Tattoos used to carry a certain stigma too, not anymore. Styles, attitudes, and culture change all the time. It’s not that complicated unless you’re trying to make it something it’s not.

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Buddyblue21 t1_jbutan7 wrote

Yeah, and a lot of black people didn’t allow their children to have natural hair. Where do you think that all came from?

And doesn’t your own point refute your argument? Styles change. So it’s largely his parents who didn’t keep up with the times.

Though there are exceptions, the perception that cornrows are thuggish is overwhelmingly a white perspective rather than a black one and that’s what’s at play here.

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MyBFFCrackers t1_jbuutfv wrote

Got it, white peoples baaaad! They are so powerful and they ruin everything :(

I’m calling the FBI on all whites I know.

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Buddyblue21 t1_jbuxnz5 wrote

No, you just can’t pay attention and make any effort to understand nuance and perspectives outside of your own.

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