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princessnegrita t1_iwcw589 wrote

Okay for right now, since you’re in school full time:

If it’s a CUNY they should have personal counseling and a health center. If it’s a cuny without those, see if you can be referred to a CUNY that has it.

Explain to them that it’s a crisis and hopefully they’ll be able to have someone see you asap. I mentioned the medical office because you’re having a physical reaction, they might be helpful for giving you techniques to slow your heart rate etc.

If it’s not a CUNY, see if the school offers any similar services. They should!

I don’t think in school personal counseling is the best long term answer but it’s useful for a crisis.

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princessnegrita t1_iwcwu7s wrote

Also wanted to add, from experience it’s worth letting your school know.

If you’re having a hard time overall, they can give you extensions for assignments and relax some of the attendance policies. They might even be able to point you to emergency grants and things like that.

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ViennettaLurker t1_iwdagon wrote

+1 to this, you don't even have to go into too much detail about your life situation. Highly, highly recommended to work with your school on this

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justins_dad t1_iwdiskb wrote

I am a teacher and I want to see my students succeed. When I taught high school, I was very lenient about deadlines during college application season. What I’m saying is most professors are normal (or even compassionate) people and will have no issue working with someone overwhelmed.

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JelliedHam t1_iwf5bbz wrote

I've had poor teachers in my life. I've had great teachers in my life.

Every great teacher I've had is a person filled with compassion for others and passion for educating. That doesn't mean lenient. Some of my best teachers pushed me very hard. Sometimes I didn't even like them. But every single one of them would be there for me if I needed them. At times I even took them up on that.

Nobody becomes a teacher for fame, money, or glory. Real teachers are proud of themselves and want to see their pupils learn and succeed. It's a selfless profession. The definition of compassion.

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crimsonred36 t1_iwdvw0k wrote

+1 direct communication with your professors and being frank about your situation can be a huge thing. Most (likely not all) professors should be kind/understanding enough to give you some leeway, or make alternate provisions for classwork, and it all starts with communication.

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detectivewaffles t1_iwf7a9o wrote

Absolutely this. Your school may have a specific disability designation that you qualify for. Mine did, and it truly made school manageable and successful for me when I had severe depression - professors were required to be flexible and work with me on accommodations.

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___pa___ t1_iwe1smb wrote

Professor at CUNY here - please ask at the school they have plenty of services to help both emotionally as well as financially. Talk to a trusted professor or the chair of your department. They will help. There are a lot of services you might not realize.

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Treat--14 t1_iwemmv1 wrote

Use this as ur last bet, it kinda sucks. Personal experience. It also takes about a week of emailing them and getting an appointment.

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