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willowtr332020 t1_j5z1gob wrote

I have stepped back from making strong arguments either way for family and friends when they are in the midst of making big decisions.

I kind of agree, you cannot project what you found yourself in your life onto what may happen to others. They are not you and life is not linear or predictable.

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tkuiper t1_j5z4pi8 wrote

Your just as likely to be right/wrong as they are, I always see myself as an additional perspective. Id never demand a choice, but I'll definitely share what's worked for me. Likewise that's how I take advice.

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willowtr332020 t1_j5z4wqe wrote

Same, in a way. But sharing the perspective can have an influence in ways. I guess it's up to the person receiving it to take it in the way you describe.

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tkuiper t1_j5z7iha wrote

There's definitely a way to phrase things. Like how you'd explain answers to a test vs. how you'd describe a vacation. Extra couching if I'm not sure they're receiving it how I intend.

I feel like the point of advice is you're looking for influence. I'm not asking someone for advice because I expect to totally ignore it.

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