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I do not advise moving to another country for a significant other, especially at such a young age. Do you see a future in South Korea or elsewhere? What happens if things don't work out with your bf? Moving to a place where you know no one besides one person can be extremely isolating.

In future I would plan to live in Germany anyways, and incase of breakup I could still stay there.

If you see yourself living there and that's a place of interest then no one can stop you

Stay in SK until your master's.

Your education is something you own for the rest of your life. Get that before worrying about prioritizing any man or relationship. If you relocate there and split your attention between him and school, or if you go there and it does not work out and then you are distracted from school, you undermine your own path.

So in conclusion I should go there?

You do not want to move to Germany and move into his house. That’s a great way to get trapped.

I suggest you move to Germany only if you have an independent reason to move to Germany, like you want to go to school there or have job prospects.

Here are some red flags:

• you are not even in college and he’s saying these are the “best years”. They aren’t. Your “best years” are ahead of you and will comprise a lifetime.

• you’ve been dating long distance for three years. There is no substitute for IRL interaction. Basically a long distance relationship with limited IRL interaction is the same thing as getting set up on a blind date when it comes to dating.

• you don’t have any plans to become an independent person regardless of what happens. If you can’t be independent, you ae going to be a poor partner for your future mate.

So I should first study in here and then go to Germany for him?

Go if you are going more for your education. Of course being with your bf is a plus but shouldn't be the main reason. Also definitely consider being independent of him. Like living on your own, having your own friends, financially separated etc.

Also your 18, these are not the best years neither are they the only best years of your life

We have met multiple times during we have dated and I am planning to move to Germany anyways at some point in life since it's my biggest dream to live in there. I don't see what others time could be the best years in life than the years in university since during university life there is still relatively much freetime and all.

I'd say the reason for going there would be 50/50 study and him. In there I would get other friends too of course but the problem with living on my own would be the living fees and all. I still wanna have freetime alongside studies and not spend it all on working. During university I have worked part-time alongside studying and it just is way too tireing.

When would the best years be then?

How would you support yourself financially then? Rely on your parents on him? Honestly for me 50/50 is not good enough of a ratio.

Honestly that really depends on you because it's different for everyone. But 18 isn't really it for most people

Germany’s a decent enough country.

I don't know how I could support myself financially yet. And what do you mean by "Rely on your parents on him?" I don't understand the meaning of this sentence.

Okay

Does it mean I should go though?

Rely on your parents or on him. Just misspelled a word.

I honestly don't know, at the same time I'd feel guilty at the fact how much my parents would have to pay for my university in South Korea

So list out some pros and cons other than your bf and come back an reexamine whether you want to go.

I'd say going to Germany has more pros and less cons than staying in Korea. In Germany Could study with no tution fees and the education level there is good + I anyways plan to live there at some point in life.

I’d wait until after your undergraduate degree’s complete. No earlier.

You make the judgement because you know your life best. At the end of the day whether you go or not it will be up to you. We're just here to give you some food for thought.