My (23M) girlfriend (21F) gave her phone number and snapchat to coworker

Submitted by NateBased t3_11ekvxv in relationship_advice

My girlfriend works at a retail store and gave her phone number to a lost prevention employee. She then added him on snapchat, he did not add her back, and found out he was interested in her. I am not sure when these three events happened or in what order.

She did not tell me about this, and when I confronted her she admitted to the number. When I asked her about the snapchat she claimed that he added her first and she simply added her back, which was not true. She quickly confessed to it being a lie.

Her explanation for adding the other person on Snapchat was “i saw someone on quick add from (store) and i added them. it’s not an excuse, i know it was wrong and i’m sorry. i just want you to know i was in no way interested in a connection with that man or any man other than you”

What does adding a coworker on Snapchat mean? Why did she lie? Could she be interested in this person?

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

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Gosc101 t1_jaepgde wrote

Yeah right. You can't tolerate lies like that. I think you can see why she did that, actually.

You should leave her, unless you are fine with her cheating on you. Alternatively, if she gets really invested in staying with you tell her to block him on everything, no matter what impact it has on her job. After giving it a thought it's probably not enough, they still work together.

Better would be her quitting her job as well. Logic is, we know why she has done her deeds. I am of the opinion people can occasionally make wrong decisions and regret them. However, to ensure they do not repeat, such decision must have direct negative consequences.

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CephalopodSpy t1_jaeo5af wrote

On the one hand, most of my coworkers and I have each other on snapchat and it isn't ALWAYS that deep. That being said, he also has her phone number and she lied to you. And her lie doesn't even really make all that much sense. Regardless of her reasons she's definitely not being straightforward with you and that's a red flag.

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NateBased OP t1_jaeofv8 wrote

I agree. I thought it was weird that she added him first, but I really didn’t think too much of it. I only started overthinking when she lied to me about adding him first. I don’t even see the point to lie about something like that

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the-mirrors-truth t1_jaem3qb wrote

Maybe, it's an age thing but isn't the point of social media to add and interact with people you know? I haven't used it in years but used to add coworkers all the time on it and still get asked for it from time to time. That's my take on it but of course it also depends on when she found it he was interested...

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nogunsmoreglory t1_jaemb05 wrote

Reverse the roles. Why would you give your number to a female coworker and then add said female coworker on Snapchat and then lie about it to your gf? What possible reason could you have to do all that and then try to lie about it? Hmmm. Think you know.

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