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DplusLplusKplusM t1_jae64op wrote

You're 20 and you've been dating this guy you're physically (but apparently not emotionally) attracted to for roughly 90 days. Ask yourself if you think it would be a good investment to spend a lot of money getting married under these circumstances. If you see the chance for a real relationship here you should tell him that when you're 25 and you've been together for at least a few years that would be the time to talk about getting married. Of course he doesn't want to go into debt staging a wedding for a marriage that's certain to end in divorce.

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Legitimate-Line5849 OP t1_jae78ky wrote

>Of course he doesn't want to go into debt staging a wedding for a marriage that's certain to end in divorce.

I don't get that though because he was the one who was so adamant about getting married two months in, brought it up first and kept pressuring me to agree It'd be in April and even said summer would be too far. I was thinking if he's that into me, and seeing himself married to me after two months, he'd at least want to put some effort in as well.

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GuvnaBruce t1_jaeam1t wrote

If you were to express to him that you are not ready and want to wait a few years, how would he react?

If it is badly, then it seems he might be trying to marry you to make it harder for you to leave once you find out how controlling/abusive he is. Really no one should be getting married after knowing someone for 3 months.

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neetraa t1_jaeb1cx wrote

He just thinks you're hella easy. You've known him for literally months. Your relationship is less established than most highschool flings. Why would you marry him?

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