houseofreturn t1_jaew4yr wrote on February 28, 2023 at 10:55 PM

Dude…you need to chill out. You’re getting snarky and defensive at all the comments, some of which have genuine advice they he may not WANT to call you while he’s working. You’re apparently 25, don’t you have your own life that would be slightly impeded if he were calling you mid-day, every single day? Look if you’re in a long distance situation, I get needing some validation that he’s available for you, but you guys text throughout the day right? I really think you should let this be. Maybe try to compromise with once a week on his lunch break. I’ll give you advice, I live with my boyfriend but our schedules conflict a lot and I don’t get to see him half as much as I want to, and I learned to manage my emotions and be okay with that. I get cute texts and tik toks while he’s on break, he gets cute texts and voicemails from me (he specifically asked I leave him voicemails so he can listen to the sound of my voice without having to interrupt his work flow to take a call). Compromise is key, find a way this works for both of you. You need to do some maturing if you think it can be your way and your way only in a relationship.

Practical-Doughnut86 OP t1_jaezbb7 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:18 PM

Don’t tell me to chill out, I’m genuinely upset by these comments because they are assuming things that literally are not true. I appreciate your comment because you are actually giving me advice and not assuming that I’m “crazy” or “incredibly insecure” so thank you for that💕.

I do not text my boyfriend 100 times a day. Not even close. We send about 10 texts a day MAX. Because yes, I work.. and so does he. I don’t FORCE my boyfriend to text me everyday, that’s just us. But I don’t force him. I’m not desperate.
My boyfriend and I do NOT call/ ft everyday. And when we do, it’s not a “requirement”. I don’t force him to call me. As I said before, we usually FaceTime 2, sometimes 3 days out of the week, but ONLY at night to watch shows together. I simply just would like a call here and there during the DAY. I never said I NEED him to call me while he is at work every single day. I just asked that he sometime call me on his way home from work for no reason, just to chat. Or on his way home from the gym. Just to add some spontaneity to it. I don’t need a call every day, or even every other day. Just at least once a week. I wasn’t the one that suggested he call on his break, he said that he would. And tbh it hurt my feelings that he said he would do something, and didn’t because I wouldn’t do that to him. And I just don’t know what to do with the hurt feelings because I know it’s petty, when all else is fine in our relationship but I can’t lie, it hurt my feelings.

Also, we do not live together and only see one another on the weekends

houseofreturn t1_jaf24s5 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:38 PM

I get that then. It does suck when your partner tells you they’ll do something and don’t stick to it. I think just communicating that it’s hurting your feelings and that you feel like you’re putting in a bit more effort than he is. You’re missing him, and want to talk to him when you can, and it doesn’t feel great that he seemingly isn’t trying to help sooth that with just this little thing every day. Doing the whole “I’ll just text him less” thing is playing games and it’s passive aggressive, and that’s never a good way to treat your partner. Just tell him how it’s hurting you, and hopefully he’ll recognize that he needs to step it up a bit.