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PastorBlinky t1_je8vwfv wrote

“My boyfriend has cheated in the past, and is almost certainly doing it again.” That’s all you needed to say. Doesn’t matter if Trans girls are involved, or anything else you said. Your boyfriend is allergic to being faithful to you. Don’t you deserve better? You’re looking for excuses because breakups are hard and you’ve invested a lot of time in this relationship. However, he’s investing his time seeing how many times he can make you look like a fool. Don’t play his games. Sexuality isn’t the issue here.

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[deleted] OP t1_je8wsws wrote

I really appreciate your honesty. You’re right, I think it’s hard for me to believe that he has malicious intentions when it’s seemed like he really loves me (talking about marriage, our future together, being with me forever etc). But I think this is a part of him he can’t get rid of, no matter how much he “loves” anyone.

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PastorBlinky t1_je8yrlo wrote

He may honestly want those things, AND he may want to chase every warm-blooded body he can find. Those two things aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. Way too many red flags here. Lots of lies. Some people see life as something you should try and take as much as you can get away with, and they usually end up with givers who can't understand why their partner can't give back. You don't have to feel like you've been lied to all this time. He may have been genuine in his love for you, but clearly he also wants to do things outside the relationship that most people would consider deal breakers. He's too selfish to consider monogamy and putting your needs first. You're young and you'll find someone who will give you back everything you're able to give them.

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[deleted] OP t1_je9qkcb wrote

Wow, you said a lot of very power things. “Some people see life as something you should try and take as much as you can get away with”, that’s huge. It’s definitely been a theme I’ve noticed with him too. I love super hard, and sometimes it’s hard for me to recognize that things like this are genuine “dealbreakers” universally, and I’m not just being sensitive. I’m sure you can imagine I’ve experienced a good deal of gaslighting as well. Thank you for taking the time to help me out and sharing your mind.

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