UsuallyWrite2 t1_jegvkp0 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 10:43 PM

Why do you feel you need to pay for their retirement or medical care? If they’re in the US for example, they can get Medicaid and Medicare to cover their medical and assisted living or skilled nursing. You don’t have to swoop in financially and honestly shouldn’t.

I’ve dealt with similar and while I’ve helped my mother and grandmother organize things, I am not paying their way. You are not their retirement plan. Live your life.

serpentssss t1_jeh2z07 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:39 PM

I guess I don’t want them to suffer under shitty eldercare and healthcare systems just because they weren’t smart enough to plan for the future.

It seems irresponsible to go down a path that I know provides little security, when I know in 10 years an extra $10k can be the difference between full rehab after a broken hip or being checked on once a day.