bc 28M. cheated on me 21F

Submitted by brownbaddie66 t3_127zs97 in relationship_advice

bf cheated, what should i do?

hey guys, i’m a 21F dating a 28M. we been together for a year and a half. and i found out recently he had met up with another girl, i believe he wanted to do some drugs and get “fucked up” and have sex with her but they didn’t actually do anything just met up, had a bite to eat.

i confronted him sunday night and he told me it’s completely up to me now what i want if i want to continue this or end it. idk what happen as we were so happy, we never fought or argued even this would technically be our first fight. he said he saw a future with me and everything so idk why he did this. said he was in a weird mental state and just wanted to escape.

i tried reaching out monday morning to go over and talk to him but he messaged me morning and didn’t bother texting again after. it’s friday now and idk if i should wait till tomorrow to see if he reaches out as this entire week he’s been at work so maybe there’s a chance he will actually reach out and we could meet up and talk. if he doesn’t i wanna reach out and see what happens.

as of right now i’m not totally in the mental state to just walk away from him. but i know if he does it again or if we try to work it out and it doesn’t work i will and can walk away. but right now i do want to be with him, of course if that’s what he wants. as again i’m not sure of his mental state rn like what if he’s talking to other girls or something? but technically we didn’t break up either bc i said to him i need a few days.

any advice? any advice from anyone that has actually gotten cheated on before and what i should do? should i give him a chance again? anything is greatly appreciated.

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JMarie113 t1_jegkc6j wrote

The cheating is bad enough, but ignoring you after what he did is crappy. This is not a good guy. I don't see any remorse. He has you chasing him. That's insane. Block him and go no contact.

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brownbaddie66 OP t1_jegkmb4 wrote

even if i don’t get back together with him i still wanna see him once more to give him shit. i didn’t get to do that and that’s why i just wanna see him again if it doesn’t work out.

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Castyourspellswisely t1_jegmtij wrote

Truth is people seldom get the closure, let alone the angry separation scene in a breakup. The sooner you stop trying to go out of your way to contact him, the sooner you’ll move on and be ready to start a new healthier relationship.

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