I (24M) have been in a relationship with my gf (26F) or should i say ex-gf for 1 and a half years.

Our relationship started as a fairytale… us coming from different countries and different backgrounds made it very challenging but both of us were up to the challenge.

She was there in my country for 3 months as a part of global exchange experience… i later on knew she came here as she was severely depressed and part of the therapy was to change her environment, however the 3 months ended up being 10 months after meeting me.

After the 10 months she wasn’t happy anymore to stay with me in my country and she decided to return to her country and carry on our relationship from a distance till i can also find a job opportunity abroad and move together and marry in another country.

I forgot to mention she is a master’s student and I’ve been helping her with her masters along with my studies then later on my job. She would’ve failed the first year of it if it wasn’t for me.

I have been very supportive, caring and loving. With her own words “i was the best man she ever met” and i really know how to treat a lady. I gave my all in this relationship and i had huge expectations and future plans together

After returning to her country she was lifeless, she had very limited friends and she was always alone in her daily life, well except that i was always there for her but from a distance. With this previous input I encouraged her to go on erasmus semester to make some friends and have some fun in a new experience, she hesitated in the beginning but I encouraged her and supported her till she finally applied and traveled.

She went on erasmus nearly one month ago… the last time we had met at that time was 2 months ago and we planned together to meet after one month from now, it was difficult to meet regularly but we managed our life till she finishes her masters then we can settle and have long term plan.

Since she arrived to her erasmus country (turkey) she completely changed, her reply time declined dramatically and there was always excuses ssuch as sorry i didn’t have internet access or sorry I cannot call you as I’m out with colleagues….etc.

Even though i wasn’t used to this but i showed understanding as i know it’s a new environment and she was overwhelmed by everything and i hoped that soon she will return to normal, I won’t lie i felt hugely neglected and didn’t feel prioritized.

After one week from being there and on a Friday night she told me she’s going out with her friends to a club….i was checking up on her every now and then until she stopped replying to my texts for almost 4 hours and it was almost 4am. I went crazy and got extremely worried, until she finally replied saying she was ok and I shouldn’t worry so i asked to call her but she said let’s call tomorrow i can explain.

On Saturday morning she called me and i immediately knew something was wrong… i told her you cheated on me and she got shocked… after few minutes she confessed that she got drunk and she made out with a guy on the dance floor then they went outside and continued making out while touching her everywhere until he put his fingers inside of her twice then she finally decided to stop. I was in shock and extremely angry and disappointed, she asked for forgiveness and i said let me think about it after taking a break for a day… after cooling down i realized that maybe it was a drunken mistake and she missed intimacy “as she said” and I decided to give her a chance to make it right… only to find out that she is rethinking our relationship and asking for more time to process her feelings. The next couple of days went so heavy on me.. how can i be the one who got cheated on and she’s the one rethinking the relationship!!! Specially that she always admits i was the best bf she’s ever been with however I cannot force her on anything so i gave her the space she asked for.. after few days she came up with 3 fundamental topics that she’s not happy about and she wanted me to change them… due to our different cultures these topics were nearly impossible for me to compromise, however I compromised 2 of the total 3 and askef her to meet me halfway by compromising the 3rd one. She was reluctant but eventually told me she will do it temporarily until we meet and speak about it face to face… during all this time she had been very distant, rude and cold while i was suffering from the fact that she cheated on me and having a huge wound in my heart. I was sleepless for almost 2 weeks while she lived her life normally.

I asked her to come to me at my country to save our distant long distance relationship and I offered to pay the tickets as she couldn’t afford it and i was surprised she didn’t accept immediately.. it took her over a week to finally decide and she finally agreed. It was also a surprise for me that she didn’t tell anyone from her new community that she’s going to her bf… she just said she was traveling which made me also suspicious, i also later on found out that she went and asked the guy she made out with about his opinion of what happened between them at that night!!! And he said he didn’t know she had a bf and he doesn’t want sny headache and he just wants to have fun. It made me also think why would she approach him again and ask for his opinion!!!

After she finally arrived to my country we connected again and i was so broken but she wasn’t.. she was somehow distant and cold… after discussing what happened one day i got so emotional and started crying but she was very tough and stayed there without saying anything.

One time she was showing me something over her phone and when I started scrolling she panicked and got her phone back. I asked if she was hiding something and she said no. So I decided to later on check her phone without her knowing…. When i did it i was shocked… the night she was traveling to me she was SEXTING with him… she told him she had feelings for him and that she wants him in the right way, however he was very clear that he just wanted sex and she replied that I’m still in a relationship… he answered saying “you didn’t think about your relationship when you had my dick in your hand” … she ended up the conversation saying “will you think about us?” Less than 24 hours of meeting me!!!!

After confronting her with what I found she collapsed… she started crying like crazy and asking for forgiveness, she said she regrets everything and that I didn’t deserve that and that she doesn’t know why she did it

I decided to break up with her but she keeps sending me asking for second chance(even after i blocked her from everything she still sends through my friends) Shes is saying she loves me and she will never do this again and she will put boundaries with everyone and that she doesn’t want to lose me. My friends are telling me that she did something that cannot be forgiving and it wasn’t just a mistake but it was a choice and she kept me as an option as she took me for granted.

I am asking for advice here… should i give her a second chance? Or shoul i throw her away and try to recover and move on with my life?