At his age, I promise you, someone has brought up therapy. He doesn't think he needs to change.

You are beating your head against a wall.

I am so sorry you are hurting. You sound like you've had a really hard life. Getting help was the right thing to do and now you need more help.

Unfortunately, she can't fix you and it is hard and probably destroying her life now as well.

Life isn't fair, there is no such thing as fair. It sucks, I know.

All you can do is reach out to any family you have left and ask for their help. Reconnect with a counselor and start talking as much as you need to. It may not feel like it but with time this gets easier.

At some point you need to take control of your life and take actions like going back to school or even taking a class at a community college. One small step at a time until you can walk again and then run again.

What do you hope to achieve with the letter? It just invites a response and continues the cycle.

Narcissists never learn or change. Save your mental health and just move and move on.

absolutely

It's a good learning experience. You know you deserve better so go out and get it!

Good relationships aren't hard. Remember that as you go forward. You are so young and have so much time to find your person.

words don't matter, actions do. People lie to get what they want out of you.

Why would someone date you when they can screw you and leave? This isn't a relationship it's a situationship.

If you want a relationship move on and learn from your mistakes. You are worth more than that.

OK sounds like Donald Trump, move on. It's not just locker room talk. It's degrading, demeaning and not nice at all.

I'd ditch this friend.

You want completely different things in life. Why prolong the inevitable.

He may be a nice guy, but that's not enough to sustain a relationship long term when you have very different goals.

You are wasting your precious time by staying with him.

You will feel so much better once you do it. You are prolonging your misery right now.

You got this. Be strong or pretend to be strong. That works, too.

absolutely normal. It's part of the grieving process. You can't just turn off your feelings. You will be angry, sad and all of the normal responses to losing a significant relationship.

No, you should not. She can't be trusted. Do you really want to live with someone who would do that? I promise she went back to sexting when she left.

Listen to your friends.

He is very, very controlling now that he feels he has no control in his life. He is trying to control you since it is the only thing he feels he can. Being out of work to a man is much harder since they are socialized to be bread winners.

Honestly, if you are scared I'd get out of the relationship. Fear is not normal and you should listen to that fear.

Yeah, he lied on the dating app. Just ask him why.

Show her this post. You need her now more than ever. If you can't say it let her read this.

Well, you are kind of being used right now. You really need to move out so he'll see what he is missing. He has no reason to get back with you cause he's getting the milk for free.

I'd be saying that to her. And if it is tight knit, you should be her #1 invite.

oh lord, I remember going through this with my husband who loved his orange statement wall. LOL.

Honestly, you just have to talk about it and find new furnishings together. Hubs resisted me at first, but I told him I didn't feel like it was my home when it was all his stuff with his orange wall. I needed us to choose different stuff together.

We sold a lot of our stuff and found couches and other things we could agree on. He had a few pieces that I like and we kept those.

I know talking about this stuff is hard, but it needs to feel like the space is both of yours.

Is it possible she assumes you know you are invited?

It isn't really that hard. You can write a letter if you don't know how to vocalize it. Just rip that bandaid off and you'll feel light and free!

There is nothing wrong with you, you are just not with the right person. He isn't your person.

Your person is still out there trying to find you.

there is truth in jest.

Some people have no morals. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don't, the age gap is gross.

When you are 40 he'll be 63, that's hot, right?

She's after your husband. He sounds like a good guy shutting her down like that.

Her intrusive behavior is completely unprofessional.