My partner (25M) thought it would be a nice idea for me to start posting my explicit photos to reddit to build up my confidence and as a bonus, he said he was really into the idea of voyeurism and putting myself out there. He said the idea of me being wanted by other people and him being the only one to have me turned him on. A month into it, he has no longer had any desire for me in that way and says that it because I've been overly sexualized on reddit. Not wanting to have sex all the time is perfectly fine. I'm just sad because he said he doesn't desire me in any sexual way because of what I do on reddit, even though he was the one who initially wanted me to do this in the first place. I just want to be wanted by him and not feel like I'm all used up for him.

Tl;dr my partner no longer wants me in any sexual way because I've been overly sexualized on reddit when it was his idea to put myself out there because it would make me feel more confident and he was into the idea of voyeurism and was turned on by it.

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xvszero t1_iuk9os7 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:41 PM

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Sounds like a dipshit. Even if just fwb, you should only be with people who actually respect you.

eebieteebie t1_iukb199 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:51 PM

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"I no longer like you for doing something I asked you to do" - This guy is a grade A dickwad.

Nothing wrong with having a fwb but just try to pick one that treats you with some respect. One who doesn't try to convince you do things for only his benefit.

You're better off without him.

TyphoonCane t1_iukbgfm wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:55 PM

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For lack of a better phrase, you got played my dear. Let the lesson be that you need to see actions and words in alignment before you allow yourself to step out of your comfort zone for some guy. In other words, if a guy isn't willing to propose to you right then and there, and he hasn't shown you that he wants to be making a home and a family with you then you should not treat his willingness to lie in bed with you be proof of his desire to walk by you for the rest of your lives. Guys and girls are different, sex for men isn't a sign of commitment, particularly as someone who wants to remain friends rather than lovers.