Trouble_in_Mind t1_iui1rh0 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:23 PM

>he doesn't want to lose me from his life but that he cant be in a relationship right now

No, that's...that's a breakup. He broke up with you in an amicable, polite fashion. You are single.

TabbyFoxHollow t1_iuiil6x wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:18 PM

Also OP, sometimes we have to take whatever living accommodations we can afford - but don't ever do studio living with a significant other before. it's like sharing a hotel room permanently. even the nicest, most lavish hotel room will start to drive you insane if you have zero privacy from your spouse. for years. trying to take naps were pointless.

The-Conscience t1_iujfjpl wrote on October 31, 2022 at 7:57 PM

100% Agree with this. Dating for 6 years and I have my own place, but when I used to share a Studio with someone, oof. It was very straining. However, I understand why a lot of people spend 45 minutes in the bathroom now. It was the only time that I could catch some me time.

EddaValkyrie t1_iujpcm5 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:04 PM

As an introvert, that sounds like a nightmare. Like there is no person, not even my mother, who I could spend time with like that without being able to shut myself in my room. I think I would just start hating that person.

Present_Bat_3487 t1_iujx3eq wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:01 PM

Yeah, my partner and I don’t live together and tbh I’m kind of not rushing it just because I’m not sure how I’ll handle that 🥲 like literally no break ever?? No space that’s my own at all?? Idk 😬 I’m hoping we can find a place that will allow for us to have our own space still. He is the same way though, so it’s all good, we both understand each other. A lot of it is sensory/stimulation issues for both of us

FMIMP t1_iuk6aep wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:14 PM

I am an introvert and during my life I always have 1 person that I can spend 24/7 with. Usually my best friend. But other people will drain me

pearlyquartz t1_iujhbx2 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:09 PM

I agree 100%, sometimes you just need to go into a bedroom and lock yourself up, or go into the living room and have some time to yourself. That doesn't mean you love the person any less, but humans need and deserve time alone, too.

futchydutchy t1_iujzetz wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:19 PM

I live with my girlfriend in a campercan with a living space of 5,6 square meter (602 square feet). If one of us needs some space one of us wil just leave the van and give the other space.

Definitely not for everyone though (we can do our own thing in each others presence and we don't need much privacy from eachother). We did need to get used to it at first, but it al worked out.

I guess my point is that living in a single room with eachother is doable for atleast some people.