Husband doesn’t last long enough in bed… it’s killing our intimacy, HELP.

Submitted by DeeSalmon93 t3_z8x244 in relationship_advice

I really need some help here guys! My husband (30M) and I (29F) have tried different things to get him to last longer but NOTHING works!

When I first met my husband(6 years ago), he was very inexperienced, which I loved. Because he was like an eager, excited puppy, in the bedroom. I figured after a while he would build a tolerance and get better with age and experience.

It’s been 6 years, and he still can’t last long. And I’m not talking a few minutes, I’m talking SECONDS.

Everything i read online says “foreplay” and “take it slow”. Our foreplay is amazing, my husband is incredible at eating me out. But I really just want to get fucked by him… for lack of a better term. 😂

When he does last longer than usual in bed, it’s when he goes slow, if he goes quick and hard, he will cum in a few seconds. But that’s what i want, i want hard. I want aggressive.

This is killing our intimacy, which is hindering other parts of the relationship. It’s getting to the point where my sex drive had taken a huge nose dive, because I don’t see the point in it.

I love my husband, and he’s perfect in literally every other way….but i miss being fucked. If not for pleasure, at least as a stress reducer.

We are very open with communication, but i can tell he’s getting discouraged the more we talk about it. So idk what else to do…

Help!!!!

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AmsterdamJimmy420 t1_iydq4z4 wrote

Numbing cream, condoms, stop and go masturbation technique to build stamina try hims.com for longevity issues or a doctor

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quirks_n_features_ t1_iydqghx wrote

Try goin 2-3 times per night. The first one can sometimes be quick but the next ones last longer

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DeeSalmon93 OP t1_iydrjaj wrote

Oh I forgot to mention, he can’t go multiple rounds. Once he’s done, he can’t get it back up unless we wait a while…. Could that be a medical issue?

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quirks_n_features_ t1_iye76d5 wrote

Not necessarily. Give him a minute. Try this, a quickie to get his first time out the way, let him give you head for a while, then see if he is up to it again. Maybe even bring in multiple toys so after he gives you head, he can use one of those remote controlled toys on you if he’s not ready to go right away. Maybe seeing you get more turned on will help him get more turned on too

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