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MckittenMan t1_iye6zfr wrote

You might be SOL friend. If you can conclude that your partner has no real desire to have sex with you, this might be as good as it gets... Having the 'this is a chore' and 'I only participate to make you happy' type mindset.

How's the emotional side of things? Do you feel disconnected? When was the last time you two went out and had a date night together?

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RayJay2000 OP t1_iyebryf wrote

We actually have weekly dates and travel quite a bit like the romance and the relationship remains unaffected. Like we still connect with each other it just seems like she doesn't connect sexually with me anymore. Like I'll take her out to nice meals and drive her to beautiful destinations and go on vacation with her. It's just if I initiate or try to initiate sex she then disconnects and just declines it like last time we had sex and she only did it because it was my birthday and even then it was the most unenthusiastic sex I've ever had for 3 mins. But then we still have laughs together and cuddle and kiss just no tongue anymore.

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MckittenMan t1_iyegb3l wrote

Everything else sounds positive and healthy.

She might have completely checked out of the sex, or developed an asexual personality.

Not sure what else you can do besides keep trying to light a spark, and contemplate it being a deal breaker for you.

It sucks.

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RayJay2000 OP t1_iyegnn7 wrote

Well thanks for the advice I really don't want to end this relationship but it's getting to me have 0 sex

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MckittenMan t1_iyehzz2 wrote

Well its a form of intimacy for a lot people, right? Many people find it strengthen their emotional bond to their partner.

Do you have any idea of her reaction if you told her it was straight up jeopardizing your reletionship?

Sorry dude.

Best of luck!

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