(26F) (24M) my partner found a sex vid and thinks it’s me…. ITS NOT

Submitted by ThrowRaVIH96 t3_zyczr7 in relationship_advice

ok so my (ex?)partner found a video on Twitter and he swears up and down that’s it’s me but it’s not. I know I shouldn’t even have to prove something that I’m being truthful about but it angers me so much that he wants to build me up as a bad guy that cheated when in reality I have no idea who the couple in the video is. What do you guys suggest? I tried looking for the person who posted it but they deleted their Twitter and I cannot find anything linked to it. Should I just leave? Should I fight and prove it’s not me? I already tried proving by showing some birthmarks I have etc but apparently me and the girl in the video are identical to him. :( this is so stupid, help

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modernbilquis77 t1_j2566f2 wrote

Honestly, leaving would be best. He has made up his mind & even with you showing him birthmarks, him still not listening. Nothing will change his mind.

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Web822 t1_j26atkf wrote

we don't know you and we haven't seen the video

If your partner has made up his mind, the relationship is over.

video quality and sound are decisive,

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atleastitsnotgoofy t1_j27o40q wrote

He knows it isn’t you. He just wants an excuse that he thinks doesn’t make him look like the bad guy. Bail.

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Electrical_Promise89 t1_j25760o wrote

The birthmark thing is weak the make up videos on SM can make a 60 year old look 30 birthmarks would be no problem! He is certain so all you can do is accept his position. The problems you have stem from either secrecy or a lack of honesty and this is how it has manifested. All the excuses sound like just that to him. Why waste your time try to prove a negative, if it is not you, you dodged a bullet! If it is you he dodged a bullet.

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