[26M] [23F] cheating girlfriend

Submitted by themadking001 t3_zzzz3p in relationship_advice

Help needed Me (26M) and my (23F) have been in a relationship for the past 9 months, recently I have noticed that she has been talking about a new male friend of hers a lot and the other day while laying in bed I noticed that this new friend of hers had sent her a message, I realised that I shouldn't have but curiosity got the better of me and I looked at the messages between them. Over the past 1 to 2 months the two of them have been sending lots of very sexual messages to each other and a few pictures and videos including one the myself and my GF made together, luckily there is nothing identifiable in the video from myself, currently she doesn't know know about their conversations and I dont know if they have met and done anything physical yet, I have taken screenshots of their conversations as evidence, l'm obviously going to break up with her l'm just very unsure on how to do it so it seems that I haven't invaded her privacy by looking through her phone, any help would be appreciated

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SugarGlitterkiss t1_j2ell8u wrote

You don't need evidence to break up with someone. Just break up.

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Own-Writing-3687 t1_j2eoxo3 wrote

You don't have to acknowledge your source of information. Just ghost her and block her. She failed your life partner test.

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SheBeeMe t1_j2emy6s wrote

You've already crossed the threshold and found the evidence. Was it a slightly crummy thing to do? Yes. However, let her know that you have the info, and it's game over for her.

A little piece of advice: don't let this experience sour you or put a bitter taste in your mouth about women and relationships. Not everyone is going to cheat on you. You've learned a valuable lesson here. You learned to trust your instincts. Take that lesson and the other positive things you've learned from this relationship and move on. Best of luck.

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