ThrowRAnjfkaehteai t1_j2djnhx wrote on December 31, 2022 at 1:31 PM

Reply to comment by lifewith6cats in [26F][26M]How should I tell (or should I at all) my severely depressed bf that I'm seeing someone else[20M] now? by [deleted]

Thank you so much. I do know how to contact his mother I'm quite close to her. I have thought about telling her I wanted to end things with him but the thing is, she has severe depression too and she takes everything really bad and personally. She might feel responsible for some things, which i would hate

lifewith6cats t1_j2e3iwp wrote on December 31, 2022 at 4:09 PM

You can't control how other people will respond. Even without the depression she would likely take the break-up badly because no parent wants to see their child in pain. Plus she was probably relying on you to care for him once they are no longer able. Don't tell her about the break-up until after you have done it, that wouldn't be fair to your bf to find out from his mother that she knew. And seriously think about blocking all communication after the break-up so that they can't manipulate you back into a relationship. Plus it would give them false hope that you might change your mind. Good luck