[19F][21M] Hey, I’m pregnant and need help with my S.O

Submitted by Substantial-Piccolo9 t3_1005ls1 in relationship_advice

I [F19] am pregnant and need help with my S.O[21M]

Hey guys, so I (f19) am almost 3 months pregnant. I found out at 3 weeks. Me and my bf (21m) have been together for a bit over a year. I did live with him for 2 months due to other issues going on at home. Me and him have been having issues since I moved out, arguing more, no communication etc. When I had found out I was pregnant, me and him weren’t talking so I had to go through someone else to tell him. So he is aware. Me and him have been trying to work things out, there’s times where we’re on good terms and times where we aren’t, right now we aren’t. And this is because I feel like with me being pregnant(which he did say he wanted the child etc) he could put in a bit more effort. I feel like there’s a lot more to being supportive than just asking me have I ate, every day. For instance, I’m the one who informs him of appointments, keeping him updated and everything but I have to go to him, he doesn’t ask. I feel like he can be more engaged with the pregnancy, especially with him knowing that my family won’t accept it and that by me keeping the baby, he’s all that I have at this point.I’ve tried to communicate this with him but it’s like talking to a wall. I don’t know what to do

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tripler1983 t1_j2fni70 wrote

You chose the wrong baby daddy. You will be a single mother soon enough.

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Substantial-Piccolo9 OP t1_j2fo4fw wrote

Thanks. That helped.

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Charming-Ad-2381 t1_j2fp9y5 wrote

This does help though because you need to start preparing to be a single mum so you're not blindsided in 6 months.

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Substantial-Piccolo9 OP t1_j2fr44x wrote

Also, I couldn’t get an abortion because I don’t have that kind of financial support, and he also kept saying he would help me with the child.

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