Submitted by Daecii t3_zzupzl in relationship_advice
I have known my boyfriend for over 6 years now. We met in college where we became very close while also maintaining a friends with benefits relationship. 6 months ago, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and we entered a relationship. A few days ago, just days after Christmas, I found out that basically throughout the entire 6 months of our relationship, he has been messaging other women (multiple women), flirting and saying things of a sexual nature. He says he's never done anything physical with these women, not that I have any reason to believe he is telling the truth, but i consider this cheating nevertheless. He sent at least 2 other girls the same message as the one he sent me on Christmas morning. After spending a whole day together, I left to go home at 3 in the morning and before I had even made it home he was messaging a girl trying to get her to come over, saying he wanted to see her. After finding out this information, I felt heartbroken and betrayed and told him it was over. Changed my relationship status, deleted our pictures from social media, and blocked him on social media as well. He eventually got in contact with me, and to make a long story short says he's sorry, he loves me, and he wants a second chance. I told him I didn't know if I could give him that and that I needed time and space away from him. Last night, he sent me flowers and a couple of snacks he knows I like.
I don't know what to do. On the one hand, he was one of my best friends, and I hate the thought of not having him in my life anymore. But on the other hand, he betrayed my trust and broke my heart, and I value myself and have my pride. How could I take him back after he made a fool of me like this? I really need some advice.
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