[25M][25F] GF keeps breaking up with me and coming back every week

Submitted by ThrowRA-uqiqi t3_1000xcw in relationship_advice

So I met a girl 3 week ago and it seems like we hit it off right away and then soon we started dating and became gf and bf.

The first few days were amazing and I wanted to pour all my love to her since she was my first gf. However things didn’t feel quite right to me because she seems to have a troubled relationship with her family and has almost no friends.

My gut feeling was right. She broke up with me in the first week without telling me why, and then in the evening she came back and wanted to patch things up.

I was saddened by the breakup and overjoyed upon her return.

However, things were still off. In the second week she kept switching between affectionate and cold in text, and dumped me again. Nonetheless, just like the first time, she came back to me in two days, apologizing and promising it would never happen again.

However, in the third week(the current week), the cycle repeated itself. She hasn’t got back to me yet tho.

She was my first gf and I really loved her. Even after all of these I still hold some feelings for her. But resentment has been brewing in me every time she tries to sabotage our relationship and get me mad.

She seems to think I’m a player and will abandon her in no time. Whenever she breaks up with me and I say I miss her or I’m upset she thinks I’m lying.. this relationship is doomed and i don’t really know what to do anymore.. should I accept her back if she comes back to her for the third time? Or should I just toughen up and grieve and forget about her?

TLDR: I met my first gf 3 weeks ago. She has broken up with me 3 times, what should I do?

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e_vil_ginger t1_j2esonh wrote

Take off those rose colored glasses my dude. Tuck and roll, bail, danger zone.

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ThrowRA-uqiqi OP t1_j2esxvh wrote

That’s also what my friends have been telling me… probably that’ll be for the best…

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e_vil_ginger t1_j2etd0m wrote

Listen to your friends. They know you. You are caught up in the thrill of a new relationship. She also loves the thrill of a new relationship....over...and over....and over. There is no future with a girl like this. You are just a cast member in her harlequin romance novel, where she is the main character.

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ThrowRA-uqiqi OP t1_j2ewu9j wrote

Yeah I agree there’s no future with a girl like this.. I just need to learn to let her go.. it can hurt..

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gcitt t1_j2f0gvn wrote

That sounds like borderline personality disorder. If so, you need to block her number. Speaking as someone in remission, she may be neurologically incapable of breaking this cycle, so you need to do it for her.

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ThrowRA-uqiqi OP t1_j2f3mkv wrote

Yeah I have the same feeling. I’m not an expert in psychology but I do suspect she may have bpd or bipolar disorder:/ if it’s the case, blocking her will be still the best for her, right?

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gcitt t1_j2f45br wrote

Unless she's making progress with treatment, cold turkey is the only way.

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