Submitted by theoway1945 t3_zzhrn8 in relationship_advice
TattooPuddle t1_j2bny6n wrote
30 year old with a 19 year old was already a giant red flag. Then he spent your money and left you entirely reliant on him. I'm sorry, you've been taken advantage of. There's a reason he was looking to date someone much younger.
Don't buy into the sunk cost fallacy. Doesn't matter how much time you put into it, he clearly doesn't give a fuck and wanted a hot baby sitter for his kids, not an equal partner.
Leave and never look back. Reach out to friends and family for help.
theoway1945 OP t1_j2bogcr wrote
I wish I could have seen that red flag all those years ago. Even at the age of 25 I look at 19 year olds as being kids, it's actually gross that he even tried it! I just wish I could have seen it. Thank you so much for your advice.
TattooPuddle t1_j2boyhp wrote
No worries. I've been in a similar situation so I get how easy it is to get sucked into it.
I wish you the best. Don't hesitate to reach out to your friends and family. I'd imagine they want you to be safe and happy.
theoway1945 OP t1_j2bp70b wrote
Thanks so much. I think that's going to be hard. I have never given any indication to anyone that we have any problems. I've been sitting silently in this for a long time. I am embarrassed. I guess that being happy eventually is worth being embarrassed for a while
TattooPuddle t1_j2bpij5 wrote
There's nothing to be embarrassed about. If anyone should be embarrassed, it's your shitty ex.
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