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lemmehelpyaout t1_j6o0iiw wrote

First of all, you should straight up ask him how he's feeling about things if you've felt like the vibes are off.

Secondly, from an outsider perspective, I think you should temper your expectations a little bit more to keep your own feelings from getting hurt. This guy is relatively fresh off a breakup of a decade-long relationship and now he's dating someone ten years younger than him. It kinda reads like he's in a rebound situation at the moment. I would definitely proceed slowly while you're figuring out what you guys are doing.

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Chaisechristine t1_j6o1bh6 wrote

I know. I was just giving it a little time considering i’ve only felt this way for two days. If it continues through the week I was definitely gonna mention something.

I did consider that as well, about being a rebound. It was just confusing because he was the one that brought up what we were doing and told me he liked me a lot. Up until that point I literally had zero expectations because I knew he was getting out of a long relationship.

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UniVom t1_j6o1tv8 wrote

Do you think you could be acting weird because he brought up being in an actual relationship again and you didn’t enthusiastically say yes you wanted to?

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Chaisechristine t1_j6o27oz wrote

I thought that too. He kinda put the ball in my court when he said if you want something more than tell me. If he really wanted he could’ve just asked me to be his girlfriend? I understand he probably wasn’t sure how I was feeling so that’s why he said that. To me if felt like he would only be doing it if that’s what I wanted.

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UniVom t1_j6o2va0 wrote

I only ask because it’s either his ex-girlfriend or it’s not and if it’s not when you take all of that away, you guys have been seeing each other for a little while now he seems to have expressed his interest, and you just went on this trip together. obviously not knowing him or how forward he is. I’m not sure if he would just come right out and say it or not but as he did just get out of a nine year relationship that almost ended in marriage, maybe he’s afraid to get hurt again. If to him you don’t really seem that interested in more, maybe he’s just kind of distancing himself.

Either way, I would be careful because this does smell a lot like a rebound relationship and while he’s probably craving the level of affection he had before I think it will wear off quickly and he may want to explore his options.

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Chaisechristine t1_j6o3mch wrote

I understand that. I think we just need to talk. There were a little more details that I didn’t add. Before we started hanging out he was talking to one of his other exes and he basically broke things off with her and this other girl he was seeing when we started hanging out. That’s why I don’t feel like much of a rebound because i’m not the first girl he’s been with since the breakup. To end things with those girls when we started hanging out kinda says a lot too. I didn’t tell him to do that.

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