Submitted by Seeker2211 t3_10jrrwu in relationship_advice
I probably have N.W. of around 600k, she is north of 1 million, not sure how far. I make around $65k, she is around $115k with 25% bonus. I have rights to 25% of the value of the home we currently live in...she has the rest, its probably worth $700k. Been married since 2011, 2nd for both. She wants to retire when Medicare kicks in, I don't care much about Dr. bills because I don't go to the Dr. and don't believe they want to help me anyway.
She wants to travel a lot in retirement, I don't feel like I can afford 50% of that, plus I don't like travel, done a lot of it for work already. I like traveling to different states inside America, not international and overseas travel. She's looking at doing the snowbird thing, south for Winter in AZ. I also don't think I can afford much of that because it involves buying another home.
I'm thinking my best option is retire early when I get access to my IRA money, and let her move on...Not sure what to do about this, we can't really talk about it 'cause I just shut up...We get along well, and have good sex life. We don't fight often, we don't fight about money at all..We don't have debt on anything. She has extraordinarily stable high level corporate job, I haven't had very stable job, although I'm employed now for 3 years. I work in high tech, it has been really up/down all my life, she has been in the same job for 34 years. All kids are grown and gone, we have pets. I get along well with her family, but they are in AZ and FL. My family isn't around.
Edit: [My favorite thing to do is go out hunting upland birds with dogs, I'm a huge dog lover and regularly rescue those types of working dogs. Anywhere in the USA.]
Many replies seem to have missed this: Been married since 2011, 2nd for both. Been married since 2011, 2nd for both.