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RVADoberman t1_j9bqdot wrote

Congrats! As soon as you get over the shock, get to work scrubbing “she wants it so I guess I’m having a child” out of your mindset. Not judging here, it just isn’t helpful and you don’t want that to blossom into full-blown resentment when things get tough.

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pawpawpaddler OP t1_j9c0356 wrote

Fair point, I realize it’s an “us” thing now and I need to start ridding myself of selfish thoughts. Thanks

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gowhatyourself t1_j9clzt9 wrote

Yep. You're going to be the support role and at first you will feel useless in comparison to what your girlfriend is doing. This is OK! Get meals squared away, make sure she stays hydrated and comfortable, and spend lots of time with her and the baby going "holy shit I'm a dad we are parents I would give my life for this poop machine this is nuts".

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LostDefectivePearl t1_j9c6v63 wrote

I do not come to this sub for such deep truths but thank you, this is a great example of how love is a choice we can make rather than something that happens to us

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badkilly t1_j9enp19 wrote

So much this. I grew up in a house with a dad who didn’t want children, and it was obvious to me every day of my childhood. No child should grow up feeling unwanted.

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