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thruster_fuel69 t1_iwvx7g8 wrote

Reply to comment by Mds_02 in Psychologists demonstrate why feeling appreciated is particularly important for avoidantly attached individuals by chrisdh79

Its why we must all be the best humans, even when it's unfair. Especially when it's unfair.

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delvach t1_iwxfzgl wrote

I had one partner tell me that I suffer because I'm a genuine person living in a world that isn't. That one sliced deep enough to hit bone.

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thruster_fuel69 t1_iwxgmrw wrote

Can relate. Just know it's only a negative trait when you're around the wrong people.

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myalt08831 t1_iwxu8pm wrote

Minus the times when the other person is being malicious, and assuming it is beyond the frame of the circumstances to properly be able to correct them.

(Some of this can still be done to be charitable, but I always say it's no good to squeeze out all your water for someone who is dried out and you become dried out instead. You dole out what you can afford to, and put limits at some point before it's too much. And frankly just looking out for yourself is valid plenty of the time, so long as you yourself are not actively malicious or be that way when it's not forced.)

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thruster_fuel69 t1_iwxud8o wrote

Then it's best to go to war, or retreat. Whichever causes the least harm.

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