This is a huge problem with how people look at disability. Disabilities are a time suck. They’re an energy suck. It’s not just about what you’re physically capable of doing. It’s also about what you can deal with accounting for the added difficulty and the added difficulty in the other things you have to deal with in your life.

For example, my particular brand of ADHD doesn’t preclude me from going to the grocery store. But I will spend about three times as long as the average person trying to find things, and I’ll be utterly exhausted by the end of it. If your response to that is “get off your butt and go shopping for yourself”, my response is “kindly fuck off and stop telling me how to spend my own money.”