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Bee-Banana OP t1_j9ekkn0 wrote

Reply to comment by tomsaiyuk in Tifu by deleting my boyfriends pokemon scarlet saves by Bee-Banana

When discussing it with him, I did not at all bring up my autism.

A rough summary of what I said to him was "I made a huge mistake and I am so sorry. I thought you did something to my switch because the joycons and docs were switched and -friend- showed me how to remove the profile. But I realized it was your switch when it was too late because I saw my game saves weren't on there and checked the other one. Your pokemon saves are gone. I'm so so sorry."

Then it was a follow up of "I googled it and I recovered your game saves of everything except scarlet. I'm so sorry, I'll transfer you my ghost pokemon and shinies, or I'll delete mine. Please don't hate me".

My mention of autism in the post is for context. He is aware I'm autistic

Autism is a very important piece of info because neurotypical people don't understand the physical and mental pain we feel to certain stimulants.

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tomsaiyuk t1_j9elg6q wrote

Once again, you had time to check which switch you had "his" or "yours" you chose not too and one reason you gave was a side effect of your autism.

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Foxrex t1_j9f3pmn wrote

NT or just judgemental?

What is it like to be perfect?

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Bee-Banana OP t1_j9elou2 wrote

All I explained was my autism made me become really uncomfortable and frustrated I never said it made me do anything. I fully admitted it was my mistake to make in the post.

Also, our switches have extremely distinct features. My joycons are completely different looking and so is my dock Theyre even connected to different tvs in the same room

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IiteraIIy t1_j9h259r wrote

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. The way other ND folks seem to be the only ones able to actually understand what you're trying to say while everyone else is just downvote bombing you is really telling.

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mbanson t1_j9hemm8 wrote

Man I don't have autism and I'm still shocked as to why the hell people are downvoting all of the comments from ND people. Its not like any one of the ND comments is worded in an assholeish way or completely disregarding the bfs feelings or justifying the OPs behaviour. They are simply showing an understanding as to why the OP did what they did.

It's kinda depressing to see how many jokes about having autism are made on reddit, yet how utterly unempathetic or understanding the plurality of users seem to be.

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IiteraIIy t1_j9iemrb wrote

I honestly have a feeling that if OP had never brought up the fact they were autistic at all, people would be significantly less judgmental. I've seen posts with fuck-ups severely worse than this and no one gives them this hard of a time about their mistake.

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RandomActsOfKidneys t1_j9gqouj wrote

Ignore them. They won't understand. Mistakes happen when emotions are high and we start to get overloaded. Rational choices aren't made and you did your best to fix the situation. You're doing the best you can and I'm proud of you. 💕

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Verone272 t1_j9eoq02 wrote

I’m autistic too and I feel you 🥹 We do make lots of clumsy mistakes that’s a fact

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