stackjr t1_j8kffnn wrote on February 14, 2023 at 11:20 PM

Reply to comment by Eckieflump in TIFU by not telling my partner about my intimate life in the past by HereckMistwalker

I'll definitely agree with this. It's impossible to be that intimate with someone and not be different afterwards. I've run into this very situation more than a few times and it always results in someone's feelings getting hurt.

Eckieflump t1_j8mhrtl wrote on February 15, 2023 at 12:02 PM

I can't speak for others on this, but I have always been very open about who I have 'done things with' and still see from time to time as friends with my subsequent girlfriends.

Communication and transparency. I am married and my wife knows, has met and is friendly with all of my ex fwb that i am still in touch with. If i became single and my new girlfriend couldn't handle that i am friends with someone I have previously had sex with, then they are not the right person for me. I am not going to walk away from a totally secure and loving friendship with people I have known for over 30 years in some cases just because someone I met many years later it feels all insecure.