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Synopia t1_ja768ti wrote

Unfortunately a ton of redditors are very immature about the idea of marriage, and in no way does this reflect real life.

Marriage is NOT a "piece of paper." Believe it or not, there is a commitment. Imagine having kids with someone you're not married to. Imagine trying to enter the hospital after they've been in an accident, but you're not next of kin.

For better or worse, society respects marriage. Saying "sorry, i cant attend the work dinner as my husband is waiting for me" is excusable, while "sorry my boyfriend is waiting for me" sounds immature to employers.

There are also tax benefits, housing and finance related benefits with loans, etc.

Right now, you guys are young. But if marriage is a deal breaker for you, then leave him. Hoping someone will change their mind after 3-5 years is wasted time and heartbreak.

And im seriously concerned with Gen Z if they think marriage is such a waste, that you should just throw all your standards out the window because "love is more important." lol right.

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FitmoGamingMC t1_ja78zms wrote

I mean... technically it is a piece of paper with agreement to things

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Synopia t1_jaa5exj wrote

I mean... technically that's not the point of my comment.

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Relikar t1_ja7fn5f wrote

Fun fact, common law negates almost everything you said. Marriage is indeed just a formality in this day and age.

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Synopia t1_jaa51d6 wrote

She doesnt WANT a common law marriage. She wants a traditional one and everyone came on here and invalidated her feelings.

It's okay to want a traditional marriage. I have no idea why we keep trying to tell women that it's "wrong" or "wasteful" to want that in western culture. You can get a courthouse wedding and it's still traditional. You can do it in your backyard. But telling someone "LOL shut up its just paper" is untrue and awful.

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Relikar t1_jactekh wrote

You're doing exactly what her boyfriend is talking about. Romanticizing it.

Also, I didn't say anything about what she wants. I simply said that a common law marriage negates every justification you had for getting married. In the eyes of the law marriage is purely ceremonial.

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dsheroh t1_ja7arh9 wrote

Interestingly enough, all the things you listed as reasons to get married are practical benefits and have little or nothing to do with love, while OP is lamenting that she doesn't want a "practical" relationship.

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Synopia t1_jaa5aeo wrote

She is lamenting the fact that her boyfriend never wants to get married. Is she a bit naive about love? Maybe. She's 24.

But my comment was to prove to all the redditors that despise marriage that it's actually okay and practical to like marriage too. It should be a deal breaker in any relationship.

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