Nexlore t1_ja7lv9r wrote
True love is not a thing, stop believing in fairy tales. The head over heels in love feeling is an adrenaline response, that's why you have "fight flight or freeze" happening when you're trying to ask out a crush as a teenager.
Once you become comfortable with someone your love will turn into a more compassionate and nurturing love. If it doesn't you're likely in a one sided relationship and constantly on edge because you are unsure if they feel the same way.
As others have said, marriage is over romanticized....and if nothing else there are tax and social benefits (you can make medical decisions for your partner if they are not capable, etc) to getting married. Possibly bring up those practical aspects if it comes to it.
As others have said, don't ruin a good thing by getting stuck in your head.
ZeroRozuMagika t1_ja7wf4f wrote
I think you thought I meant true love as in Disney. I meant true love as in truly loves me.
Nexlore t1_ja9ox8x wrote
Why do you believe that he doesn't? What does it mean to truly love someone?
It just seems as if marriage doesn't have the meaning to it that it does for you.
Marriage is an obligation, that puts pressure on people and can end relationships regardless of how much those individuals are in love. Furthermore, there are responsibilities and societal expectations that come along with the institution of marriage. If not for the responsibility as a surrogate decision maker in the event of emergency or incapacitation and the tax benefits, I'm not sure I would care about marriage myself. The relationship between me and my partner is not defined by how society references us.
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