VictosVertex t1_jb61vwp wrote on March 6, 2023 at 6:30 PM

Reply to comment by 1LizardWizard in TIFU by de-sensitizing, re-sensitizing, and over-sensitizing my penis. by venidiluculo

Agree, people on reddit seem to watch too many romcoms. That's not how real life is at all.

Bringing flowers and a blown up apology because sex got more messy than expected is absolutely out of proportion.

Like I don't even see how this is remotely a big deal. Worse things happened to me and while they were embarrassing at the time not a single instance was a deal breaker.

If someone leaves you because sex got messy then be glad they're gone. Not only would they be boring in bed, they're just not mature enough for a proper relationship between adults.

Shit happens, sometimes even literally, in this case just figuratively but it's no big deal either way.

He could basically just say sorry for the mess and even state that he didn't expect ot to be that good because his experiences were different.

If she's mature enough (and enjoyed the rest of the date of course) then this will be nothing but a funny story to laugh about years later.

1LizardWizard t1_jb6c8cr wrote on March 6, 2023 at 7:42 PM

Seriously. I can’t say I’ve had this specific experience, but as you say, we’ve all had awkward and embarrassing experiences—that’s part of life. Anyone who’s ever had sex consistently knows it can be sticky, smelly, and sweaty.

I recall reading a study a while back that humans in states of sexual arousal are substantially less sensitive to unpleasant odors, gore, and a couple other categories. The theory being that sex is a pretty gross thing naturally, so our brains compensate with endorphins.

I hope everything works out, but if making your partner cum too quickly is a dealbreaker that’s just mad shallow. If I were the woman, I think I’d just be more proud than anything else.