TheyCallMeGilly t1_je5syu6 wrote on March 29, 2023 at 4:51 PM

There’s a lot to unpack here. First and foremost, I feel worse for your boyfriend than I do for you, just to get that out of the way. Is there a faster way to get into therapy? Are you love bombing your ex in hopes of getting a response or any sort of answer? If he really does say “enough, I’ve had enough and I don’t want to go through this anymore.” Have you thought of how you’re going to react? Or would react? Or would it be another episode? All of these are rhetorical, but those are the thoughts and questions that immediately come to me. There’s so much going on here, biggest suggestion I can make. Don’t drag your boyfriend down with you while you try to figure your mental health out, it’s really selfish and unfair. E

[deleted] OP t1_je5ud4p wrote on March 29, 2023 at 5:00 PM

I also feel worse for him than I do for myself. I can't get into therapy sooner, there's a waiting list. I don't consider the letter I wrote love bombing, I would post it here but it's in my native language so I don't think it would be useful. I've had others read it for me in advance (like my parents and friends) and I asked if it came across as begging or being manipulative and they said no. If he says he doesn't want to try again then I respect that and I will leave him alone. I just didn't want to live with the regret of not letting him know that I want to try again.