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eddiepaperhands t1_it3xrec wrote

I think you’re conflating “nice guy” with “toxic manipulative douche.”

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winterbunny13 t1_it3zvvg wrote

How do you define nice guy? Because that is the trope to me.

Edit for distracted phone use.

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IAMSRK07 OP t1_it434ib wrote

read the edit

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winterbunny13 t1_it6lgjg wrote

You didn't need to tell me to read the edit. I knew you meant nice guy (tm) and not an actual nice guy. This is why I asked them to define nice guy, which they didn't do.

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IAMSRK07 OP t1_it91927 wrote

yes, apparently many people did not get the meaning of the word Nice guy

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IAMSRK07 OP t1_it43hso wrote

i used them both as synonymous to each others

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eddiepaperhands t1_it43kti wrote

Yes, that’s what “conflating” means.

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Cl0udSurfer t1_it4jbp2 wrote

Being a "Nice Guy" is different from being a nice guy. Nice Guys are toxic and manipulative douches, whereas nice guys are just good people.

Nice Guy has become a term used to describe men who behave as if they are owed things from women for simply being a decent human being. They dont realize that the mere fact of having this expectation means that they are not, in fact, decent human beings, because being kind to a woman with the expectation of a reward later on is not actually decent.

r/niceguys has a bunch of examples like this

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eddiepaperhands t1_it4jhmo wrote

OP used “nice guy” throughout, not “Nice Guy.”

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Cl0udSurfer t1_it4ju3h wrote

I capitalized it to make the distinction easier for your benefit, but its not strictly necessary. Based off his behavior, and by his own admission, OP knows which one he is

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winterbunny13 t1_it6lvxq wrote

Eddiepaperhands is just pedantic. They know what a nice guy is. It's why they refused to define it for me, because they also knew what op was saying but wanted to be subversive.

They are also mocking someone who might not have English as a first language without even thinking that the internet is more than just an English speaking space.

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winterbunny13 t1_it6lzxi wrote

The nice guy trope is synonymous with manipulative asshat trying to get laid. Except nice guy takes a lot less to say. This is why I asked you twice to define nice guy, because I feel like you know the trope but are ignoring that on purpose.

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