TIFU by finding out my bf has a foot fetish

Submitted by Character_Freedom_36 t3_ye48s4 in tifu

I am at a loss for words guys. Me and my bf are very open with each other with all things. We are into some things that aren’t vanilla at all so it’s not like I’m shaming. So the other week my bf and me were goofing off and as a joke I touched his “thing” with my feet. I was giggling expecting him to push them off or say ew or something. But when I looked at him his face was bright red. I moved and asked what was wrong he said nothing and covered himself with a blanket. I was concerned but didn’t say anything. The next day I was looking something up on the computer and I was already suspicious of him so I was checking the search history. I actually didn’t find anything but I decided to check his phone. I had it while he was in the shower and in his private browser he had 4 TABS OF FOOT PORN/FETISH SITES OPEN. He was also subscribed to someone’s only fans who only posted feet pics. Its been a few days and i have no idea what to say to him. I now notice how much he looks at my feet. I’ve started wearing socks more because it makes me uncomfortable. What the hell do I do.

TLDR- I put my feet in my bfs ring as a joke. He got red and acted suspiciously and didn’t tell me to move. I checked his private browser and found for porn among other things. I haven’t talked to him. What do I do?

-I just want to explain some things. First I am allowed to be on his phone as he is mine. If he would’ve seen me with the phone he wouldn’t have cared at all. Also I do not mind about the fetish (I’m into some crazy sh!t to) but it isn’t something I think I’m into. Last I’m going to talk with him today. Tell him I don’t mind the fetish, just that he hid it and was subscribed to someone’s site.

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nanny2359 t1_itxin10 wrote

The real problem in your relationship is that you're creeping on his phone when he's in the shower.

It is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what his fetishes are. He chose to keep his preference to himself and you completely ignored his boundaries and privacy.

What the fuck is wrong with you

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Character_Freedom_36 OP t1_itxjkst wrote

In my relationship I have full access to his phone as he does mine. However I wanted a chance where he couldn’t delete anything. Also idc that he has this fetish i just wanted to know how to approach the situation.

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nanny2359 t1_itxka8u wrote

>I wanted a chance where he couldn’t delete anything.

So you knew he wanted to keep it private, and you didn't care. So selfish and nasty.

>how to approach the situation.

Do him a great favour and excuse your disrespectful ass from his life

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Character_Freedom_36 OP t1_itxl71k wrote

As his gf of 5yrs i have a right to know his fetishes. I have the right to know which parts of my body turn him on. And not to mention, it makes me kinda uncomfortable. Especially since he was subscribed to someone else’s 0nly fans because of it.

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MikeyMBCA t1_itxt8j6 wrote

Your entire post history is basically "I didn't say anything about what I'm feeling, and now I'm mad at him because he didn't read my mind."

You need to grow up. Learn to actually express what you want and what you're feeling and don't get all mad that he didn't interpret your lack of communication the right way.

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Character_Freedom_36 OP t1_itxu22c wrote

No it’s not at all the first post I made was my fault. I wasn’t mad at him I was angry with myself. With my second post he was being dumb i got upset and we talked it out. I have never expected him to “read my mind”. And I’m not upset with him now either. Where did I say I was angry or upset at him? I’m just confused on my feelings and like unbiased outside opinions

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ScaresGuard t1_itxqes9 wrote

You have nothing but history being a total self centered jerk. It’s his fetish, his business. Snooping in his phone is not cool. You should admit what you did and apologize.

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Character_Freedom_36 OP t1_itxrdq9 wrote

What did you do stalk my page? And he allows me full access of his phone same the other way around. I didn’t do anything he doesn’t let me do anyway. But yes I’m probably going to come clean Ik I should.

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AyeBraw t1_iu3k37z wrote

“What did you do stalk my page?”

Coming from the person who stalked their bf’s phone while they weren’t there

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CrankyUncleMorty t1_itxfiia wrote

Why not just say "if you cancel your sub, I'll be tour pretty foot model", and probably become the woman he marries lol

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ComfortableGlad2493 t1_itxfyy8 wrote

Get a pedicure and ask him to rub your feet. Lean into it or if you can’t hang with his fetish then maybe move along.

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C399a00203 t1_itybzvo wrote

He can do better than you. Break up for both of your sakes.

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3bag t1_ityph32 wrote

I guess you have a few options:

  1. Run with it! Make all his fantasies come true by getting a pedi and let him massage your feet and love you for loving him enough to indulge his fetishes.
  2. Run away! Decide that it's just too weird for you and move on.
  3. Do nothing. Stay as you are, let him have his foot porn time (it isn't hurting you or anyone else.) Carry on with your lives.
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KcocNoisnetxeGib t1_itxixos wrote

Should probably have a chat with him then maybe break it off cause it’s not likely that fetish is going away. So you either deal with it and/or move on from it

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batesbeach t1_itxxr53 wrote

Tell him to clear his browser history

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[deleted] t1_itz8rle wrote

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Character_Freedom_36 OP t1_itz9bhl wrote

I’m not angry or upset about the fetish. I do not care what people are into. I’m upset that he didn’t say anything after 5yrs. I’m upset that he was subscribed to people’s sites. I was just asking how to approach the situation.

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Lord_Cockwood t1_itxov34 wrote

Depends on whether you want to stay with him or not. If you don't break it off. If you do you better start doing some hanging leg lifts cause you gonna need that core strength.

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KnutDeloro t1_iu4eoir wrote

Only positive sides if you think about it. You: "I need new shoes!" He, 30s later, sitting in the car honking: "Hurry up, the shoe shop closes in 5hours!!!!!" Compare to non fetishist reply: "New shoes again?????? You have so many.......!!!

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Previous-Iron-4165 t1_iud3bsq wrote

'I'm allowed to be on his phone as he is mine' - OPs a little possessive?

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Impressive_Fall_8043 t1_iu06ow5 wrote

Dude, why are people being total assholes? Be honest with him. If you feel it's weird and you're not into it, just tell him. If you don't mind but really only mind about the OF's thing then say it. Clearly he's embarrassed. You fucked up and snooped through his history and found it... Oh well, don't do it again.

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