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[deleted] OP t1_iy5ep94 wrote

Reply to comment by Asdfaeou in TIFU by forgetting my wife is mostly infertile by [deleted]

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vampiratemirajah t1_iy5hmvx wrote

She's never going to forget what you've said. Your apology might resonate at some point, but it'll never mean much to her. And it certainly won't take away the power of what you've said to her.

Honestly, it seems as though there might be a little resentment toward her about this, counseling would be my first approach for sure.

But yeah, idk if anything you can say/do will fix this, unfortunately. Is there a word for the feminine equivalent to being immasculated by your partner? Her self esteem is likely taking a massive hit rn, she needs to be reminded how much she means to you.

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[deleted] OP t1_iy5iej2 wrote

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vampiratemirajah t1_iy5jd0j wrote

Most women grow up believing their purpose is child-raising and family-making. Even if she wasn't indoctrinated like the rest of us, it's definitely a sore spot for a lot of us as we get older. Please, please be genuine in your apology attempt. This isn't like accidentally scratching her car when you borrowed it, you've essentially repeated something negative she's likely been hearing for a long time.

It's really hard not to internalize fertility issues.

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